Are 3 common traits of all successful people and teams.
What level are your “D’s” at?
~ Kevin Eastman, assistant coach, Boston Celtics
Note from CoachO: A great thought leader I have come to admire is Ralph Marston. He has a very inspiring website called, “The Daily Motivator.”
The following is a post from his “Motivator” archives… Enjoy!
Don’t avoid the hard work. That’s where the greatest value is created.
Don’t be afraid of the difficult, complicated, challenging tasks. Once you get past the fear, you’re already past the most difficult aspect.
Relish the opportunity to do the hard work. For it is an opportunity to experience yourself being fully alive and effective.
Find real enjoyment and satisfaction in doing the difficult work. Get yourself hooked on how good it feels to make a meaningful positive difference.
It’s often assumed that hard work is best avoided. Yet when you avoid hard work, you cheat yourself out of the joy of accomplishment.
Seek out the hard work and you’ll find it’s not bad at all. Do the hard work, and transform each day, each moment and each effort into great value.
— Ralph Marston
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“I’m your partner in the pursuit of excellence”
** Note from Coach O: I was doing some spring cleaning and found a book I read some time ago: “The Heart of A Leader”, by Ken Blanchard. I have been taught by my pastor/mentor, Dr. AR Bernard, that we should occasionally revisit a previously read book or article because: we SHOULD be at a different place in our leadership & will see things we did not see before. Well, it is TRUE!
I will be sharing things from this quick read – but robust book on the “Heart of A Leader”. It’s a collection of Mr. Blanchard’s “favorite sayings” (as he put it) I hope you read something that helps you and inspires you to be a better leader!
“The key to developing people is to catch them doing something right”
~ Ken Blanchard & Spencer Johnson – One Minute Manager
Catching people doing things right is a powerful management concept. Unfortunately, most leaders have a genius for catching people doing things wrong. I always recommend that managers (coaches) wander around their organization catching people doing things right.
But I remind them, that effective praising must be specific. Just walking around and saying “thanks for everything” is meaningless. If you say, “Great Job” to a poor performer and “Great Job” to a good performer you sound ridiculous to the poor performer and “demotivate” the good performer.
Catching people doing things right provides satisfaction and motivates good performance. But remember, give praise immediately, make it specific, and finally, encourage people to keep up the good work. This principle can also help you shine at home. It’s a marvelous way to interact and affirm the people in your life.
Coach O’s “3 Pointers”: 3 Things For Us To Consider:
1. What are you consistently known for? Catching people doing things right…or wrong?
2. When we DO give praise, is it immediate or three days later? Is it specific?
3. Do we praise people in our family as passionately, and as OFTEN as we do our players and coaches? (Hmmm)
(Think on these things and resolve to Improve TONIGHT!) I know I have things to work on! 🙂
I’m your partner in the pursuit of excellence!
Orison Swett Marden (1850-1924)
Note from Coach O: Orison Swett Marden, founder of Success Magazine, is also considered to be the founder of the modern success movement in America. He certainly bridged the gap between the old, narrow notions of success and the new, more comprehensive models made popular by best-selling authors such as Napoleon Hill, Clement Stone, Dale Carnegie, Og Mandino, Earl Nightingale, Norman Vincent Peale, and today’s authors Stephen R. Covey, Anthony Robbins, and Brian Tracy.
So, this week, my “14 Quotes Series” will take a different direction and highlight my 14 favorite quotes from Mr. Marden. I hope you read something that inspires you to pursue excellence!!
“A will finds a way.”
“Achievement is not always success while reputed failure often is. It is honest endeavor, persistent effort to do the best possible under any and all circumstances.”
“Most of our obstacles would melt away if, instead of cowering before them, we should make up our minds to walk boldly through them.”
“Obstacles will look large or small to you according to whether you are large or small. “
“Success is not measured by what you accomplish but by the opposition you have encountered, and the courage with which you have maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds.”
“The Creator has not given you a longing to do what you have no ability to do.“
A strong, successful man is not the victim of his environment. He creates favorable conditions. His own inherent force and energy compel things to turn out as he desires.
“Be larger than your task”
“Deep within man dwell those slumbering powers; powers that would astonish him, that he never dreamed of possessing; forces that would revolutionize his life if aroused and put into action.”
“Don’t wait for extraordinary opportunities. Seize common occasions and make them great. Weak men wait for opportunities; strong men make them.”
“Many a man has finally succeeded only because he has failed after repeated efforts. If he had never met defeat he would never have known any great victory.”
“Unless you have prepared yourself to profit by your chance, the opportunity will only make you ridiculous. A great occasion is valuable to you just in proportion as you have educated yourself to make use of it.”
“Begin where you are; work where you are; the hour which you are now wasting, dreaming of some far off success may be crowded with grand possibilities.”
“You cannot measure a man by his failures. You must know what use he makes of them. What did they mean to him. What did he get out of them.”
This is a great post from Brian Dodd, who has a fantastic blog! Enjoy the read, but also grab something to apply to YOUR life!
Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet.
Only through experiences of trial
and suffering can the soul be strengthened,
vision cleared, ambition inspired
and success achieved.
~ Helen Keller
The great successful men of the world
have used their imagination,
they think ahead and create their mental picture in all its details,
filling in here, adding a little there, altering this a bit and that a bit,
but steadily building – steadily building.
~ Robert Collier
An excerpt from “The Score Takes Care of Itself,” by legendary NFL football coach, Bill Walsh, with Steve Jamison & Craig Walsh
In chapter 1, Walsh states, “When you stand and overcome a significant setback, you’ll find an increasing inner confidence and self-assurance that has been created by conquering defeat. Absorbing and overcoming this kind of punishment engenders a sober, steely toughness that results in a hardened sense of independence and a personal belief that you can take on anything. survive and win.”
Walsh further states: “The competitor that won’t go away, who won’t stay down, has one of the most formidable competitive advantages of all. When the worst happens; and it did to me, I was helped by knowing what it took to be that kind of competitor—to not go away, to get up and fight back….. I have tried to adhere to some simple dos and don’ts for mental and emotional equilibrium in my personal and professional life, nothing profound, just a few plain and uncomplicated reninders that helped me manage things mentally and stay afloat:
MY FIVE DOs FOR GETTING BACK IN THE GAME
- Do expect defeat. It’s a given when the stakes are high and the competition is working ferociously to beat you. If you’re surprised when it happens then you’re dreaming; dreamers don’t last long.
- Do force yourself to stop looking backward to dwelling on the professional “train wreck” you were just in. It’s mental quicksand.
- Do allow yourself appropriate recovery—grieving—time. You’ve just been knocked senseless, give yourself a little time to recuperate. The keyword here is “little”. Don’t let it drag on.
- Do tell yourself “I will stand and fight again,” with the knowledge that when things are at their worst you are closer that you can imagine to success. Our Super Bowl victory arrived less that sixteen months after my “train wreck” in Miami.
- Do begin planning for your next serious encounter. The smallest steps—plans—move you forward on the road to recivery. Focus on the fix.
MY FIVE DON’Ts
- Don’t ask “Why me?”
- Don’t expect sympathy.
- Don’t bellyache.
- Don’t keep accepting condolences.
- Don’t blame others.
What great advice from one of the greatest coaches ever! I must thank my friend, Joey Burton, for recommending this book. He has become a great friend and shared this book at the right time in my development! Thanks, JB!
For more information on this book or to purchase it, click here.
Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.